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Dangers of Holding in Your Emotions

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A light bulb went off in my client’s head one day. He said, “Wow! I thought we were supposed to get through life by avoiding our issues and negative stuff, but you’re telling me the point of life is to face it, deal with it, heal it and let it go!” I was proud that he got that. In past generations, life was more about survival, so healing past emotional turmoil was lower on the scale of hierarchical needs. But when you have the luxury to live in a time and place where basic needs are met, then we can focus on further enhancing our quality of life. Releasing and nullifying whatever it is that triggers us and causes ourselves and others emotional grief is one way to grow and evolve, because beneath our triggers is a repressed and limiting thought, feeling and belief all rolled into one knot of trapped energy in your body/mind system. The natural impulse of avoiding it unfortunately locks it into place, but placing your full attention on it can release it. Modern day sage Leonard Jacobson says, “We escape emotional pain by going into our heads/minds. This is harmful. The #1 cause of unconsciousness is that we are trying to escape emotional pain. Feel it! And your health will improve.”

It is for this reason that I created the Emotional Healing and Awakening session. It’s a process that combines several effective techniques to help a person heal and release unwanted thoughts, feelings and beliefs from the past that they are holding in their body/mind system.

I was pleased to come across a well-researched article by Tabby Biddle called Dangers of Holding in Your Emotions, so I’m happy to share it with you here. Please enjoy!


“Most of us have heard of the term “emotional baggage,” and admittedly carry some around. We spend our time keeping busy with work, friends, socializing, cleaning, daily tasks, shopping–anything to avoid having to face or feel our emotions that we are carrying around from past painful experiences or traumas. The problem with this, according to mind/body medical experts, is that repressed feelings don’t just go away. They actually remain in the body, taking up our energy and laying the groundwork for physical ailments, illnesses and disease.

“Many illnesses are quite simply the end result of emotions that have been stuffed, unacknowledged, and not experienced for years,” says Christiane Northrup, specialist in women’s health and author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom. “Unexpressed emotions tend to ‘stay’ in the body like small ticking time bombs,” she says. “They are illnesses in incubation.”

According to experts in mind/body medicine, our emotions have a profound effect on us because they are physically linked to our bodies via our immune, endocrine, and central nervous systems. These experts agree that often the seeds for a patient’s physical problems were planted by the patient’s earlier emotional traumas.

According to Northrup, millions of women suffer from chronic pelvic pain, vaginitisovarian cysts, genital warts, endometriosis, and cervical dysplasia, which are conditions that are the language through which women’s bodies speak to them.

Edward T. Creagan, MD, an oncologist at the Mayo Clinic, says that in dealing with the emotions of grief, if you don’tface your grief, your wounds may never go away. “Unresolved grief can surface years later as headaches, relationship issues, intestinal problems, mental health difficulties, eating disorders, chemical dependency or other issues,” he says.

Additionally, holding in emotions can weaken your body’s immune system, making you more likely to get colds and other infections, as well as lead to the abuse of alcohol, tobacco or other drugs.

The danger, experts agree, is that when we delay acknowledging our emotions, this can lead our body to speak louder and louder to get our attention.

The following are some of the more common physical ailments and illnesses and that have been linked to holding in emotions:

Headaches Diarrhea Depression
Stomach Aches / Ulcers Low Back Pain Insomnia & Fatigue
Anxiety Weight Gain or Loss General Aches & Pains
Rheumatoid Arthritis Fibromyalgia Cancers
Constipation Asthma High Blood Pressure


Healing Through Feeling Emotions

When we don’t allow ourselves to feel our emotions, and instead run away from them or use other processes, such as drugs, to get a “high,” we create a dangerous situation for our mental, emotional and physical health.


Healing can occur when we allow ourselves to feel, express and release emotions from the past that we have suppressed. The following are some helpful tips to help you address, express and improve your emotional health.


Tips to Improve Your Emotional Health


Cry. The next time you feel moved to tears, stop and let yourself experience it.


Laugh. The next time you feel moved to laughter, allow yourself to laugh.


Speak. If you feel angry or upset with someone, speak with them about it. Sometimes just saying, “I feel angry,” feeling it in your body, and then explaining why you are angry, can be the key to cleansing out the anger.


Make sounds. You can do this in your car, in your home, or in your office. Take a deep breath, and as you are exhaling, allow whatever sounds you feel to come out. Repeat this up to ten times. Sound has a powerful ability to release emotional energy. Try a longer session, combined with stretching exercises, to release some of the longer held, stagnated emotions.


Pay attention to physical clues. This could include an uneasy feeling in your stomach, a tightening of your chest or throat, or a clenching of your jaw. Your body might be hinting at emotions that you are trying to stuff. Pay attention to what the emotions might be, acknowledge them and breathe deeply. Tuning in to how you feel in your body can be the key to your healing.


Practice Yoga. Yoga is probably one of the best activities you can do to tune into your body, mind and emotions.  It is a holistic health practice. The postures will allow you to feel where you may be storing suppressed emotion, and the deep breathing will allow you to move the energy and express it in a healthy way.


Get a Massage. Massage is another powerful way to tune into where you may be storing emotion in your body. By breathing deeply while the massage therapist works on different parts of your body, you can safely and effectively release long-held emotion.


Talk to someone you trust. By confiding in a trusted friend or a trained therapist, you can explore your feelings more deeply and improve your self-understanding and self-acceptance, which is a key to good health.


When we acknowledge and allow ourselves to express our emotions in a healthy way, our self-understanding and acceptance improves, our body and mind feel cleansed, and we feel freer, happier, and most definitely, healthier.”



American Academy of Family Physicians. Mind/Body Connection: How Your Emotions Affect Your Health. FamilyDoctor.org.

http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/home/healthy/mental/782.html. Accessed January 13, 2011.

Creagan, E. T. Grief: A Mayo Clinic Doctor Confronts Painful Emotions. MayoClinic.com. http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/grief/HQ00771.Accessed January 13, 2011.

Mate, G. Suppressing Our Emotions Harms Physical and Mental Health.Alive.com. April 2011.  http://www.alive.com/1787a5a2.php?subject_bread_cramb=78.

Northrup, C. Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom. New York: Bantam Books, 1998.